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2013年9月28日 (土)

As the parents of the educational pressure

3453 There are many theories about parenting, and you can find hundreds of books that give you different options. You can't actually reduce parenting to a few universal rules, as parents are all a little different, as are their children. There are, however, some guidelines that can be useful for any parent, and we'll be focusing on some of these in this article.
One style that is very popular with many parents is the authoritarian style of parenting which requires children to listen to you no matter what. Unfortunately, although this sounds great, it is not as effective or as popular as it was years ago. The type of parenting, though effective in regard to having control over your kids, does not allow them to learn for themselves or to make the right choices without you. Teenagers will definitely not appreciate the type of parenting, which will result in many fights for several years. It is safe to say that this style of parenting is very extreme, which is why it has fallen out of favor over the last few decades. In the end, it is always beneficial to have your kids know why they're making choices which will help them later in life.
All parents have moments when they feel like the pressure is too much to take. This may be when your child is being particularly difficult, or maybe repeating a certain behavior you've told him countless times not to engage in. You might need to take a timeout, count to 10, and return to the situation with a different frame of mind.
When you're too upset or angry, your response isn't likely to be the most effective one. By calm yourself down, you will be able to discipline your children properly, and things will not get out of hand.
There are definitely ways that you could change your child's behavior and get them to mind you a little better. Providing choices, instead of direct commands, is a very useful technique in manipulating and controlling your children. Any choice that you give your child will give them the power to make the right decision, something you want them to learn. If you go out to your garden, and you find your child digging up everything you just planted, this could be a very troubling situation.
Rather than yelling at him to stop doing that, you could frame it in such a way that he has choices, such as playing with a toy or eating a snack. This way, you're taking control of the situation by making it clear he has to change his behavior, but you're also giving him some alternatives to choose between.
Most people can be great parents, however it takes a lot of patience and determination to become one. Most of us need to watch our tempers, and do our best to live up to standards that we expect our children to go by as well. The strategies outlined in this article should help you become a more loving parent with your children.

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